#RandoMusings of Teerandaaz On Life and leadership

Emotional Intelligence has been defined by stalwarts and I will not attempt to refine or redefine it.  I see it as the intercourse of one’s self and the environment.  When the environment acts on me, ie there is a stimulus, I react (or not) and if I recognise the cause and effect, I am “self aware” When I act on the environment, the environment responds, and if I am able to dispassionately recognise the impact, I have “social awareness” What I do with this awareness is my emotional maturity... self management is what I do to be effective and leverage the stimulus to be effective as awareness of my reactions and impact and self management result in my having better relationships and that results in higher performance both personally and professionally  For me to be able to leverage this knowledge and skill I need to believe that I am not perfect and I am not gods gift to mankind! 

Notice the drivers around you and your thoughts when you are in traffic. (More relevant in the Indian context) those who alway see to be in a hurry to get ahead are usually also shortsighted. Therefore causing the traffic snarls.  Jumping lanes, squeezing into gaps even jumping Red lights.  It’s a fact that you can’t really gain more than a minute or two by driving over the speed limit even on open roads.  The number of abuses and curses gained however are exponentially more!!! Chances of not getting to the destination are also high. However ask the rash driver and they will extoll the skills they have etc.  All their behaviour exhibits is their supreme lack of respect for others... everyone on the street is out there for a reason none more or less important than mine. When I overtake I am telling them your need is less than mine but I started later and I have to get ahead!!! It is a direct reflection on my upbringing which shows that I was not taught to respect othe...

Let’s talk about scheduled 1:1 conversations between manager and employee  Who owns that time -The manager or the employee? Who sets the agenda? What is the objective? How often is enough? How long is enough? Those of you who have been in any of my leadership sessions would know just how crazy I am about this ... This time with your team member is NON NEGOTIABLE  It is THEIR time and it is their agenda. You may added to it IF a they agree and there is time.  This is the time for you to spend in building a relationship and your own credibility as a manager and then as a leader.  A frontline (FL) manager of people must invest 60 minutes per person per month.  A level 2 ( manager of FL Managers) manager must plan for 90 mins per FLM per month A level 3 ( manager of a L2M) must invest 120 minutes per manager per month CXOs and 2 levels below must have at least 120 minutes a month with their managers.  This is one of the ways of planning your span, if you can’t ...

The ability and the comfort with which I can seek help and feedback is built on the foundation of my confidence in my abilities.  The next blocks in the edifice are my ability to acknowledge the support , share the glory, and truly own the feedback, it does not matter if I implement the changes that the feedback entails, just that I own it as something someone gave me .... l A Leader’s ability to inspire confidence and safety ( more on safety later) is directly proportional to their self confidence and belief.  For me to be able to be vulnerable in front of the team, I would have to be super confident of myself and be able to to recognise my strengths and opportunities! Own those to a level that I know when to ask for help and demonstrate my journey in building my ability on my opportunities.  The team and anyone around me would then be able to vouch that I am invested in developing myself and those with whom I work.   When you get a gift 🎁 .... what do you say? “Th...

  Leading is one trait that one cannot demonstrate without the explicit evidence and support of those being led.  I cannot be a leader if I do not exhibit the exact traits that I wish from my team.  If I demonstrate, and still do not evoke the desire to emulate, I still have not evolved enough to be a leader.  I can be a supervisor, a manager but not a leader.  #leadership,  #team, #culture, #leadershipgoals, #randoMusings More to come on Feedback  #feedback #thankyou #randoMusings  #motivation #leadershipmindset